More than 89% of people around the world would prefer to do something else in life. Are you one of them and why is that number so high? I think I know why and I also know how to reduce it.
My name is Cristiano De Sade, I am an experienced Life Coach and Consultant specialising in emotional wellbeing along with personal, professional and self-relationships at Awakening Melbourne. I have finished my formal education as Psychotherapists but genuinely become a relationship expert after I went through the pain of wrong relationships myself.
In the beginning, I will tell you how and why you have become who you are now. I will follow by letting you know who you are as a human , and I will end with suggestions how you may inspire personal growth.
How and why you have become who you are now
You were born as an innocent and perfect human with a great desire to learn and evolve in an already deceived and manipulated world with all its rules and concepts on how to behave and live. Your teachers were your parents, all the people you came to trust and your environment. The environment is not just a place like home and school. Environment includes everything that surrounds you – your means of receiving information from: such as TV, radio, newspaper, computer, phones and internet.
But life was the musical thing and you were supposed to sing and dance while the music was being played…
You were taught through repetition. As an innocent and honest child, you believed and trusted your teachers and started to become the person who you are now. You’ve learned what is acceptable and what is not, what is good and what is bad, what is beautiful and what is ugly, what is right and what is wrong. You may have disagreed with your teachers because you came to understand the world in your own way. If you tried to revolt, you were punished. Because you were small you eventually surrendered and became a copy of your parents and society’s beliefs.
But look at this society! It is completely brainwashed with ideology:
• The more items one possesses – the biggest, the latest, the more valued, important and branded one is in life and the eyes of other people.
• The only way to be happy is to be a soulless individualistic robot because
• if you don’t have possessions, you are not good enough, you are not attractive enough, and you are not worthy of love.
This ideology exists in different levels in different countries but is hardwired everywhere in the world. It is based on beliefs you were taught through force – not by your choosing nor your experiences.
Who you are as a human
Human development started around 2 million years ago. There are places in the world where people are still living as we were for centuries; in egalitarian hunting and gathering society. Where existence bases on food sharing and gift exchange. Where person is commonly surrounded by broad family members and people that he or she knows entire life. In a world which is not based on material culture but fluidity with different groups. In a world with almost no violence.
So by nature, people have developed certain needs for existence. Like the need for compassion, close contact, to be loved, to be attached to, to be accepted just the way we are. And only if those needs are met you will develop compassion and cooperation and have empathy for other people.
How to break those materialistic patterns and inspire change
Two suggestions. First one is to book appointment with Awakening Melbourne. Second one is to feel the following wisdom of life.
Why music differs from saying…travel
Music as an art form is essentially playful…you play the piano; just as you play any other instrument, you don’t work piano. When you travel you are trying to get somewhere; and we, by becoming very compulsive society are busy to getting everywhere faster and faster and faster…till we eliminate distances between places. And as a result of that the two ends of your journey become the same place. You have eliminated the distance and also eliminated the journey. But the fun of the journey is the travel and not to obliterate travelling.
By nature, people have developed certain needs for existence. Like the need for compassion, close contact, to be loved, to be attached to, to be accepted just the way we are.
See in music one doesn’t make the end of the composition the point of composition. The same way is with dancing…you don’t aim the particular spot on the dance floor where you want to arrive. The whole point of dancing is to dance.
Now look at the people; sooo many those days only live to retire and put entire life savings away in super founds and mortgages for house. So then when they are 65 they don’t have any energy left, they are more or less impotent, and they go to rot in senior citizens homes.
Because we were manipulated from day one of our life. We were thought that life is a journey, which had a serious purpose at the end and life mission was to get to that end whatever that may be. But life was the musical thing and you were supposed to sing and dance while the music was being played…and you should just let it happen… not had to do it.
Albert Einstein said:
“One who follows the crowd will usually go no further than the crowd. Those who walk alone are likely to find themselves in places no one has ever been before.”